Lesson 3: How to Prioritize Your Focus to Create New Opportunities for Yourself

The Big Clean Up – Making space to receive your heart’s greatest desires

You know those people who say, “If you can visualize it, you can have it.”? And do you notice a lot of them do seem to have it? All of it.

But no matter how tightly you close your eyes and visualize that 5-star luxury vacation on a white sandy beach surrounded by turquoise water, perfect weather, and people waiting on you at every turn, it still hasn’t happened. Instead of a paper umbrella in a fancy glass, the cup you’re drinking from came from a drive-thru or your kitchen cabinet.

It’s not because you’re not deserving or because it can’t happen for you. None of that’s true. What is true is that visualizing is a step towards creating what we want. It’s not the only step, but it is an important one. That’s how we get clear on what we want. Clarity is essential. You can’t get where you want to go if you don’t know where you’re going, right?

“Clarity is essential. You can’t get where you want to go if you don’t know where you’re going.”
Gina Gomez

So we’ve established that visualization is important. You know what else is? Action.

You may be thinking, “Well then, what’s the point if I just have to do it all myself anyway?”

I get it. And hang on.

The action I’m talking about may be different from what you’re thinking and when we start looking at it you may even say, “It would be easier to just do it myself.” That’s ok!

Because here’s something to remember, all great adventures have parts that are uncomfortable and even frightening. Just like all great adventures have parts that are rewarding and beyond any excitement we imagine.

This is part of your adventure. How you choose to view it is up to you. I prefer to see it as something exciting and fun. To me, it’s the step that makes space for magic and wonder as I wait to see what kind of gift will arrive – and it always does. Always.

Below you’ll find a list of questions for various parts of your life. You’ll look at what’s working, what’s not working, and then look at what needs to be cleaned up in order to make space for what you most want.

It’s a little like preparing for a houseguest. But in this case, the houseguest is the version of you where your dreams are coming true.

When you prepare for a houseguest, normally you get some things together before this person arrives. Things like clean sheets, fresh towels, a clean house, good food, and if you’re like me, you’ll even repair things that have nothing to do with the houseguest but suddenly seem important.

In this case, the houseguest is your dream. You’ve got to make space so that when it arrives, you’re ready to welcome it with open arms.

Now before you start with,

“Oh, I don’t have time to do this right now.”

“I don’t have time to clean my own house. How on earth can I clean up my life?”

“Have we met? I live with people. They can’t know what I’m doing. They’d never understand.”

“I don’t want to do anything drastic or that makes me uncomfortable.”

“Nope. Not my thing. What else have you got?”

Ok, fair enough. BUT, you’re still reading so there’s a part of you (even if it’s a tiny curious part) that does want to create space. So let’s make an agreement:

You don’t have to do anything you’re not ready to do or not willing to do. This is your life, your experience, your choice. You also don’t have to do it all in one sitting or in a specific order. Find what works for you and enjoy the process.

I will give you options, ask questions, and make suggestions that will help you decide what’s best for you. Informed decisions are the best decisions. You deserve that. So let’s make that happen.

You in?

I thought so. Let’s get started:

"The Big Clean Up" Worksheet


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Gina Gomez is a Business Strategist and Advisor working with some of the most well-known and well-respected professionals in the entertainment and personal development industries.

Gina has a certificate in Diversity & Inclusion from Cornell University and has been published in Forbes where she is also a member of the Forbes Coaches Council. Due to the emerging needs arising in the marketplace, Gina has become a prominent voice in the field of Diversity & Inclusion and built a reputation as a go-to facilitator teaching others how to overcome fear, how to have hard conversations, and how to overcome challenges and limiting beliefs. She has also worked with Fortune 500 CEOs and corporate executives, small business owners, artists, and probably at least one person who’s a lot like you.

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