By: RTT Family
“To my queens out there that have been cheated on by their men, it’s not your fault. Stop making it your fault. To my kings out there that have been cheated on by their women, stop making it your fault. Yes, women cheat too. Now, here’s the other thing. Sex is one of the strongest forces in the universe that we have to deal with. It’s not even about what’s going on in a relationship. This is about self-mastery, okay? So, if you think just because somebody says they love you or you think just because they want to be in a relationship with you that that means that’s gonna dissolve all their traumas that they come with, and that they are going to know how to deal with their traumas? No, people gonna mess up. But here’s the thing. Make sure that you’re with someone that is interested in mastering themselves and everything that they come with. And I know that there’s a lot of pain that comes with infidelity, but relationships are a spiritual endeavor. Just make sure you’re with somebody who’s worth it. “
Relationships can be complex, as two people come together with their own set of hurts, triumphs, and hidden mysteries. So many of us have searched for relationships where we can be loved and respected by our partners, but ultimately found ourselves devastated by infidelity and emotional trauma along the way. It’s hard to share your heart with another when you haven’t fully set a foundation for love within yourself. How do we build meaningful love relationships that are meant to endure?
We’ve found a few answers in our reflection from Jada’s quote above:
- Make self-mastery a priority! You can’t pour from an empty cup and you can’t give the love that you don’t possess within yourself. Self-mastery allows you to be attentive to your heart, mind, and body alignment so that you can be centered and present in your relationship with yourself and other people. Love the person that you are, flaws and all, because then you can receive the type of love that you deserve and more!
- Set high standards for your love life. So many times we find ourselves sacrificing our values in exchange for the company of others. Every time we do, we compromise the quality of our relationships and our self -esteem. It’s ok to stand up for your values and require that your mate have standards as well.
- Walk away from relationships that don’t feed you holistically. Like Jada says, relationships are spiritual endeavors manifesting in our physical body. It’s only fair that you give yourself a chance at healthy meaningful relationships and a better quality of life.
- Forgive and forge forward. Without forgiveness, you suffer and your relationships suffer, as pain breeds self-imposed punishment and more pain. When you forgive, you clear all of the negative residue from the hurt that you’ve experienced and you can move forward.
QUESTION FOR THE TABLE:
What is one way that you can set higher standards in your love life? SHARE your truth in the comments below.